So here I am essentially single in the city, living the ultimate SJP experience no? I mean, killer penthouse condo, amazing view of the city in one of the hottest areas, and steps from the trendiest shopping district Toronto has to offer. On top of all that, I have no extra tooth brushes in the holder, no toilet seat to repeatedly put down and no extra articles of clothing laying around that have special washing and ironing directions, ITS ALL MINE!!!!!!! And I'm not saying that sharing it with someone wouldn't be awesome, I'm just saying that for right now my space is my space and for this one reason I say that its fully time to experiment, wouldn't you?
After realizing that the life I thought I was going to have was no longer, I decided to think about that bucket list, you know not the list of things I want to do before I die, but the things I want to do before I get married, have kids, raise a family and ultimately sell my soul. So while there are obvious career & life goals, the fun stuff includes ways on getting out there, meeting people and figuring how exactly you find "the one" in the middle of this chaotic place.
So place number one - Speed dating?!?!?!!?!? After months and months of contemplating, I bit the bullet and attempted this crazy concept. I won't say where, with whom or how it all came about, but let's just say it did in fact happen. AND LET ME TELL YOU....it was likely one of the most exhausting experiences ever, even for a chatter box like myself. So let's set the stage.
50 guys, 2.5 minutes each and they all come to ME?...mhmm, I could get used to this new aged thought of an assembly line, lol. Everyone is handed a piece of paper that has all the participants of the opposite sex on it, a space for comments and a check box that says yes or no. The bell rings and there you have it, bachelor number one makes his way to you. The bell continues to ring every 2.5 minutes to alert the guys to essentially move on to the next one.
Now, the idea is that based on the amazing conversations you share in 2.5 minutes each of you is suppose to check the yes/no box. At the end of the nite you are to go home, log into the site and place your yes's and no's online. Every time yes's match up, personal information such as email addresses are exchanged and the dating begins so to speak. Now I won't even take it that far, because the truth is I have no idea where that paper went and after going through these motions for about an hour or so everyone started to seem the EXACT SAME.
The concept I have to say actually makes a lot of sense, I mean its the most bang for your buck. It's your chance to get out in the city for a night and meet people that are somewhat serious about finding someone and experience a full season of the bachelor/bachelorette without all the unnecessary drama and rose ceremonies. Great concept, only the pool of men usually don't embody anything like you see on TV.
I definitely have some funny stories to share about the men i did meet ( i.e. the movie funder, the tattooed covered man and the ones that sat their not saying a word) , my favorites were the ones that approached you, sat down and immediately checked yes without even asking your name. Flattering yes, but at the same time being a former fatty myself, I kind of want someone to say yes because of the substance and not based on the things that are definitely all going to be due south in the next 20-30 years. I mean let's be honest, there is only so much that botox and plastic surgery can do, lol. I just remember thinking, really at this point I could say anything and you would nod your head and smile, so you can imagine the crap that flew out of my mouth...lol
Needless to say the pool of men was extremely interesting and while I wouldn't do it again at the risk of running into anyone I know, the reality is that it does open you up and stretch you completely out of your box and comfort zone. I mean I sat there through some of the best conversations I have ever had and wondered if I saw you at a bar and you approached me, I would probably look the other way. And while I think we all have these ideas of what our ultimate mate should look like or embody, the truth is after pooling a lot of my friends in successful relationships lately, the consensus has been that usually everything you want is there, but the packaging is just so not what you thought....
Interesting thought no? Almost like the that saying you heard repeatedly in elementary school and high school not to judge a book by its cover. In this day in age, with life being so chaotic and so busy a concept like this makes SO MUCH SENSE, you just have to show up with absolutely no expectations and a completely open mind.
For me, I still want that fairy tale, no matter how cynical, guarded and stand offish I can seem at times, I really just want to meet my best friend and for me that won't happen at a speed dating event...sooo with that being said speed dating check, on to the next one?!?!
Til the next is complete
- A
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
A Brand NEW Beginning
A year ago, I embarked on a journey that essentially has changed my entire life as I know it. I left completely freaked out about leaving my quote unquote perfect life behind, worried that everyone would change and essentially I would come back with out a place to fit. The reality is that while life continued here, I was the one that came back completely different and likely changed for the good, the better and for who I always wanted to be. And while the months or the year since I have returned have been full of change, turmoil, heart break and growing up, I can't help but feel stronger then I have ever felt before. A force to be reckoned with so to speak or a Woman and no longer a girl who is ready to have the life she has always dreamed.
A year ago I also began blogging and I realized that while many people have hobbies or passions like dance, music, arts and crafts, mine is writing. Whether I am good at it or not, it is what I love to do and essentially if I could have any job right now, it would likely be to have my column in a book, magazine, newspaper or any other type of media where I could just get paid to research and write about anything and everything under the sun.
When I started this blog, I didn't really have any clear direction on where I wanted to go, and just thought that from my daily life I would get hints and tips on what to write on, which I did but based on the things I was experiencing that line between me wanting to constructively write and also use this as an outlet for me began to become soo grey that there was just too much emotions tied up in this.
So after taking a bit of a hiatus and essentially thinking to myself that I would no longer continue to blog, something happened that changed my perspective on this crazy thing that we call life.
A couple months ago, as I began to enjoy my deactivation from facebook and my new found sense of freedom from the addictiveness of social media, I got a call from someone who is extremely dear to me. The conversation that began to take place is one that I would have never expected, and after hearing that the 28 year old life on the other side of the phone was in jeopardy and possibly headed for an early ending I realized just how short life was.
So the questions on how to spend the time we have now and the people we want to spend that time with, all began to float in my head and as I walked home from work in the days that followed, while the music blaring in my ears from my Ipod all I could think was I just want to spend the time I have doing what I love, with the people who respect me, understand that I am not perfect and essentially see and believe the good in who I strive to always be. And with that I ended up here, aren't you lucky???
Only now, I have a clear idea of where I want this to go and how constructive writing can still be an outlet for me as long as I leave my emotions to the left of the keyboard...lol
Soooo without further adue, welcome to MY BLOG :) Just because I essentially can! The idea is to create a forum. A chance to air out anything and everything. And I don't mean emotional drama but rather things that we all sorta just wonder - whether its something we have always wanted to try, we have always thought, wondered or question - It will all be put in here!
I am off facebook now, and officially have no way of sending out post updates, SO PLEASSSE bookmark, check back, follow me on twitter (which i am still attempting to learn)- anything...to support. Like a starving artist, I am a starving writer, who would love a following :)
Let the POSTTIIING BEGINNN shall we say :)
- A
p.s. On twitter - "MadameArti"
A year ago I also began blogging and I realized that while many people have hobbies or passions like dance, music, arts and crafts, mine is writing. Whether I am good at it or not, it is what I love to do and essentially if I could have any job right now, it would likely be to have my column in a book, magazine, newspaper or any other type of media where I could just get paid to research and write about anything and everything under the sun.
When I started this blog, I didn't really have any clear direction on where I wanted to go, and just thought that from my daily life I would get hints and tips on what to write on, which I did but based on the things I was experiencing that line between me wanting to constructively write and also use this as an outlet for me began to become soo grey that there was just too much emotions tied up in this.
So after taking a bit of a hiatus and essentially thinking to myself that I would no longer continue to blog, something happened that changed my perspective on this crazy thing that we call life.
A couple months ago, as I began to enjoy my deactivation from facebook and my new found sense of freedom from the addictiveness of social media, I got a call from someone who is extremely dear to me. The conversation that began to take place is one that I would have never expected, and after hearing that the 28 year old life on the other side of the phone was in jeopardy and possibly headed for an early ending I realized just how short life was.
So the questions on how to spend the time we have now and the people we want to spend that time with, all began to float in my head and as I walked home from work in the days that followed, while the music blaring in my ears from my Ipod all I could think was I just want to spend the time I have doing what I love, with the people who respect me, understand that I am not perfect and essentially see and believe the good in who I strive to always be. And with that I ended up here, aren't you lucky???
Only now, I have a clear idea of where I want this to go and how constructive writing can still be an outlet for me as long as I leave my emotions to the left of the keyboard...lol
Soooo without further adue, welcome to MY BLOG :) Just because I essentially can! The idea is to create a forum. A chance to air out anything and everything. And I don't mean emotional drama but rather things that we all sorta just wonder - whether its something we have always wanted to try, we have always thought, wondered or question - It will all be put in here!
I am off facebook now, and officially have no way of sending out post updates, SO PLEASSSE bookmark, check back, follow me on twitter (which i am still attempting to learn)- anything...to support. Like a starving artist, I am a starving writer, who would love a following :)
Let the POSTTIIING BEGINNN shall we say :)
- A
p.s. On twitter - "MadameArti"
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